My first Social Saturday was touch-and-go in that I almost didn't do anything with anyone, but I succeeded in the end! I was much overdue for some girl talk with my friend JM, so I invited her to try a new restaurant* with me: Basil Rice Asian Street Food.
Located at 479 Harvard Street in Brookline, Basil Rice occupies the spot left vacant by the now-closed Pita Pit.** You almost wouldn't even notice that it was there, but people should take notice. We went in at 5:30, and it wasn't crowded at all. The staff was wonderfully friendly and seemed very excited to serve us. The menu is mostly Thai-style food (there's a lot of Basil and Rice on the menu...go figure), but there's a wide variety of dishes to choose from. JM ordered the Pork Wonton Noodle Soup (8) and I ordered the Beef Basil Fried Rice (9). Both dishes came out in a reasonable amount of time. Also, the server brought us both big cups of water, which I certainly appreciated., as the rice was quite spicy. It was almost too spicy for my taste, but I powered through because it was delicious. It was garnished with fresh cucumber, which offset the spiciness quite well. The portion was quite large, and I'm looking forward to eating my leftovers tomorrow. JM was very satisfied with her choice of soup, as well. After dinner I got myself an order of Mango Sticky Rice (6) to go, and it was heavenly--and I don't even like mangoes all that much.
This place is great and it's in a super convenient location near Coolidge Corner. Moreover, it's cheap (they're doing a 20% discount until August 14th) and they deliver! So give this place your business (and feel free to invite me to come with you)!
*This is the first time I ever went to a restaurant during its opening weekend. I felt very sophisticated.
**I regret never going to Pita Pit before it closed. It would have been some good Provo nostalgia. Hence my jumping on Basil Rice opening weekend--can't miss out on these opportunities.
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Saturday, July 26, 2014
Sunday, July 20, 2014
A New Experiment: Social Saturdays
So...this might come as a shock, but I'm an introvert.
This was actually something that I didn't realize for a long time. I would start feeling really miserable at social activities and just think "oh, I'm shy," or "everyone here is just clearly beneath me and that's why I'm not having any fun," but then I actually realized what introversion meant and all of a sudden, everything started making so much sense.
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| Okay, fine, it's not a shock. |
One of the things that sucks about being an introvert is that church on Sundays is EXHAUSTING. Sometimes its so bad that after church I have to lock myself away in my room and not talk to anyone for hours.
I think I figured out why (or at least part of why) Sundays are so hard. It's because on Saturdays I don't do anything. I mean, I do things; I wake up too early, clean a bunch of crap, maybe run some errands, and then go for a long walk before watching Hulu and going to bed too early. So other than a phone call to my mom and maybe some small talk with a store clerk, I really have no human contact, so talking to people on Sundays is the equivalent of running a marathon after several weeks of sitting on the couch and doing nothing.
However, I did notice that on Sundays following a Saturday where I actually did stuff, it was not so bad. So I'm going to put this to the test. I will test the central hypothesis that socializing on Saturdays makes socializing on Sundays less exhausting. The rationale for this is that, should my hypothesis be proven correct, I will become happier and more pleasant to be around because I will learn how to condition myself to social situations.* So what I'm going to do is this: do something with someone or a small group of someones every Saturday and see how it makes Sundays feel.
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| Exhausting. |
On a related note, anyone want to do anything fun next Saturday?
*Okay, clearly grant-writing has started to seep into my blogging.
Thursday, July 17, 2014
Dating Post #4: It Takes a Village...Actually, No, It Does Not.
After a number of posts in which I claimed to be a firm authority on all things related to Mormon dating, I had a minor freak-out when I suspected that I might, in fact, be a huge fraud. I had this entire thesis that dating is not a difficult or stressful thing, and yet... Would I have to retract all of my dating posts? Make a public statement that I actually knew nothing and we were all up a creek and it was anyone's guess whether we'd just die alone?
But I took a second to think it over. Why is dating, which has been happening forever, and Mormon dating, which has been happening since that one day Joseph Smith made eyes at Emma Hale while he was carrying a shovel* so stressful? I think I figured out the reason: Other Humans.
Other people, especially single Mormons, love to talk about couples--who's dating, who went on a date, who just broke up. Gossip is no virtue, to be sure, but if it just ended at the gossip, it might be fine, but it continues to meddling. From the giving of unsolicited (and often poorly-founded) advice to people on the verge of relationships to the hounding of the newly-broken-up, people have this desire to involve themselves in other people's love lives.
I've been reading a lot of Jane Austen lately. My favorite Austen is Emma. I think it's very relatable to Mormons because Highbury is basically one big singles' ward full of busybodies. Think about it:
*That's what happened in the movie, at least.
**Because it's Britain.
***By reading this blog, I'm assuming that you're asking me for advice.
****This is not a hypothetical thing. People actually have lists.
*****Because this is just the kind of crap that Nature is into. That and Machiavellian yeast and stuff.
But I took a second to think it over. Why is dating, which has been happening forever, and Mormon dating, which has been happening since that one day Joseph Smith made eyes at Emma Hale while he was carrying a shovel* so stressful? I think I figured out the reason: Other Humans.
Other people, especially single Mormons, love to talk about couples--who's dating, who went on a date, who just broke up. Gossip is no virtue, to be sure, but if it just ended at the gossip, it might be fine, but it continues to meddling. From the giving of unsolicited (and often poorly-founded) advice to people on the verge of relationships to the hounding of the newly-broken-up, people have this desire to involve themselves in other people's love lives.
I've been reading a lot of Jane Austen lately. My favorite Austen is Emma. I think it's very relatable to Mormons because Highbury is basically one big singles' ward full of busybodies. Think about it:
- Emma gives bad relationship advice to Harriet, leading Harriet to get heartbroken. Multiple times.
- Mrs. Weston and the Coles speculate whether Mr. Knightley and Jane are an item.
- Emma and Frank gossip about the relationship between Jane and Mr. Dixon
Clearly, Frank and Jane had the right idea with the secret dating. Sure, everyone talked about it afterwards, and maybe Frank wasn't the best secret boyfriend, but at least their relationship had a chance to develop before all of England had to throw in their tuppence.** I love this line from Mr. Knightley's response to the speculation about him and Jane: "[Cole] gave me a quiet hint; I told him he was mistaken; he asked my pardon, and said no more. Cole does not want to be wiser or wittier than his neighbours."
Let us not want to be wiser or wittier than our neighbors. Here are my helpful hints on how to do this:
Let us not want to be wiser or wittier than our neighbors. Here are my helpful hints on how to do this:
- On giving advice: Don't. Okay, that's hasty. No, actually, it's not. Don't give advice. Because really, why are you doing it? In twenty years, will whether or not two people decided to date each other matter to you? Are you really that concerned with the happiness of two random people in your ward? Probably not, which means you're probably doing it so you can take some of the credit for whatever happens. But what if someone asks for your advice?*** Then, sure, give it. But realize that you are not one of the two people involved, and therefore you don't know everything.
- On people getting together: Did you see two people holding hands once? Yes? Was it in public? No? Could there be a chance that the entire world doesn't know about it yet? Yes? Could there be a chance that that is on purpose? Yes? Should you tell other people about it? (Say it with me, now,) NO!!!! At the very least, wait for the official press release (aka, when they sit together in church).
- On existing couples: Unless you're have some sort of...um...ahem...arrangement with a couple, you are not part of that couple. By all means, like them, think they're cute when you see them together, invite them to fun little brunches, but don't keep track of them like they're mating pairs of endangered bull trout or something.**** Like I said before, people have been dating forever. It's not really that interesting. Now, if every time they kissed one of them turned neon green and started levitating, that would be interesting, and please, write a report for Nature or something.*****
- On people breaking up: See above, re: you don't know everything. But I liked X and Y together so much and they need to get back together and I want to make it happen and let everyone know that it was all because of meeeeeeeeeee! No. Stop. Maybe there's a tiny, tiny chance that if you meddled they'd get back together and everything would be fine, but the more likely outcome is that, for whatever reason, one or both members of the former couple will end up feeling even worse about things than they did in the first place. So console, eat ice cream, have angry dance parties, but don't meddle.
Maybe this is one of my harsher dating posts, but really, the meddling and the gossip has got to stop. It's making something which should be fun and wonderful and simple a lot harder and terrifying than it should be. If you won't hearken to my words, listen to the Fresh Prince:
*That's what happened in the movie, at least.
**Because it's Britain.
***By reading this blog, I'm assuming that you're asking me for advice.
****This is not a hypothetical thing. People actually have lists.
*****Because this is just the kind of crap that Nature is into. That and Machiavellian yeast and stuff.
Wednesday, July 9, 2014
Life as of Late: July 2014
This should really be called a Boring Life Update Post, but as I said before, I don't want to make people automatically assume I'm going to be boring. But sweet heck, it's been pretty boring.
- I'll start with the least boring thing first. I went to the wedding of one of my best friends a few weeks ago. It was beautiful. It was also the first wedding I've ever gone to. Turns out, I cry at weddings.
- I crocheted a giant afghan as a wedding gift for this friend. Crocheting giant afghans in the summer is not super fun. Also, I strained my rhomboid because I'm the type of person that gets shoulder injuries from yarn crafts.
- I also picked up a date at that wedding! Not in a trashy "Wedding Crashers" kind of way, but in the way that the groom's little brother needed to be entertained for the weekend so we went kayaking and ate pizza. I'm still going to count it as a Hallmark Twenty-Something Experience. Also, it puts me ahead of schedule on my Twelve Dates per Year goal.
- This is where it stops being interesting. Much of my life has been dominated by writing an NIH Individual Predoctoral Award. Grant-writing is really fun, if you're the type of person who doesn't understand English and therefore doesn't know what "fun" means. It's due at the end of this month, but it's actually starting to look like a real grant, and therefore I am optimistic that it will go well. And even if it doesn't, there are always more funding cycles in the sea.
- I'm auditing a Functional Anatomy class in the Physical Therapy department at school. It's kind of weird to be in a class and not have to worry about a grade. Although I fully expect to have nightmares about the fact that there was an exam today that I didn't take.
- When I'm not grant-writing or attending classes for fun and not credit, I am at the gym, because I've turned into one of those people who exercises all the time and actually enjoys it. Even planks are becoming fun and not at all hard (unlike my abs, which are like steel).
- The Fourth of July happened. I celebrated my independence by renting a Rug Doctor and cleaning my couch. I also defrosted my freezer. I am awesome and not at all lame.
I think that's about everything. As I said, it's been a pretty boring July. I hope that once August happens and my grant is turned in I will start doing fun things again. Perhaps I'll even write another dating post.
Monday, June 30, 2014
The Beast Within
A short play by yours truly.
We open on an office, in which I am working. It's 11:00 in the morning.
STOMACH: Psst! Hey, Alex!
ME: What?
STOMACH: Remember that sandwich that you have in the fridge?
ME: Yeah.
STOMACH: Can I have it now?
ME: No. Lunch is at noon.
STOMACH: But I'm hungry!
ME: Deal with it.
STOMACH: But you haven't fed me since breakfast, and that was five hours ago!
ME: I gave you a Nutri-Grain bar at nine.
STOMACH: That is nothing. A Nutri-Grain bar crumbles and withers against my amazing digestive powers.
ME: You're just going to have to wait.
STOMACH: I'll scream.
ME: Don't you dare.
STOMACH: RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!
In conclusion, we ate lunch at 11:00 today.
I realize this is the second post I've ever written about my growling stomach. At least I switched writing styles, and at least it's twice as many posts as I've written about phlegm.
We open on an office, in which I am working. It's 11:00 in the morning.
STOMACH: Psst! Hey, Alex!
ME: What?
STOMACH: Remember that sandwich that you have in the fridge?
ME: Yeah.
STOMACH: Can I have it now?
ME: No. Lunch is at noon.
STOMACH: But I'm hungry!
ME: Deal with it.
STOMACH: But you haven't fed me since breakfast, and that was five hours ago!
ME: I gave you a Nutri-Grain bar at nine.
STOMACH: That is nothing. A Nutri-Grain bar crumbles and withers against my amazing digestive powers.
ME: You're just going to have to wait.
STOMACH: I'll scream.
ME: Don't you dare.
STOMACH: RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!
In conclusion, we ate lunch at 11:00 today.
I realize this is the second post I've ever written about my growling stomach. At least I switched writing styles, and at least it's twice as many posts as I've written about phlegm.
Sunday, June 29, 2014
Kind of a Funny Story...
So remember a few months ago when I went "Speed Mingling?" Take a moment to read about it here. It's okay; I'll wait.
Ready?
Remember the part about the cute, bespectacled redhead? I saw him last night at a big YSA activity on the beach. I didn't even recognize him at first, but then when I recalled who he was, I was like, "oh yeah, we actually met at speed mingling."
And then he was like, "Yeah, you wrote about me on your blog!"
Apparently a mutual friend who reads my blog saw my post and showed it to him. Now, if this had happened ten years ago, I would have been like this:
But now, I'm basically like,
It was hilarious. So much so that it doesn't even matter that bespectacled redhead and I are not soul mates. I wouldn't trade this ending to the story for all the happily-ever-afters and nearsighted ginger babies in the world.
Ready?
Remember the part about the cute, bespectacled redhead? I saw him last night at a big YSA activity on the beach. I didn't even recognize him at first, but then when I recalled who he was, I was like, "oh yeah, we actually met at speed mingling."
And then he was like, "Yeah, you wrote about me on your blog!"
Apparently a mutual friend who reads my blog saw my post and showed it to him. Now, if this had happened ten years ago, I would have been like this:
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| Right before crawling in a hole to die. |
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| People know me...or at least they know my blog |
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
The Importance of a Good Eight Hours
I like to go to bed early, because the early sunrises and chirping birds make sleeping in a non-option. It's not so much that I really need all that much sleep, but I enjoy getting it nonetheless. Here is last night's dream, as proof that my sleep life is far more exciting than my awake life.
My neighborhood in Pennsylvania was being slowly invaded by a gang of vampires, led by Lestat, who was portrayed by Arsenio Hall. They made their mark by digging little holes in the ground in the borders of the neighborhood. It was so serious that I insisted that nobody leave the house anytime when it was remotely dark outside. Now is probably a good time to mention that I was a vampire slayer in this dream.* Even though I wasn't Buffy, I was acquainted with the Scooby Gang, and I decided that I needed Spike as backup.** So from the couch in my family room, Mrs. Weston (née Poor Miss Taylor) sent Spike a lengthy text message asking him to come and help, and also possibly to marry me--I didn't read the message that thoroughly, but you know how Mrs. Weston can be.
The next part was pretty cool. I was in this school or possibly abandoned shopping center building fighting the gang of vampires, who were dressed in some very crude armor. I made my way through by sliding on the floors for great distances, presumably as a result of my own innate slayer strength. I found Lestat's "right hand man" vampire and was trying to beat some information out of him to no avail. I was nearly about to chop his head off when he pleaded "you can't kill me--I'm the Elders Quorum President!" Apparently the reason nobody was killing the vampires (the male ones, at least) was because they were attending the local singles' ward and really bumping up the male population.
We all made our way into a grocery store after that, and one other male vampire was mulling over the pre-decorated cakes. His dilemma was that he had forgotten to get a cake for Elders Quorum, but it was Sunday and he wasn't sure if he should break the Sabbath to buy a cake. I was like, "you drink the blood of the innocent...I'm pretty sure buying a cake on Sunday isn't going to tip any scales." Over in fresh produce, Spike and Lestat (aka Arsenio Hall) were getting into it because Spike thought he told Lestat never to show his face in these parts again and also how can you tell whether a mango is ripe?
That dream left me with so many unanswered questions, but unfortunately, my kidneys hadn't left me with any more unfiltered blood, so I had to wake up.
*I have a complex, probably.
**This part was probably prompted by the fact that I'm thinking about going to Comic Con this year and James Marsters will be there.
My neighborhood in Pennsylvania was being slowly invaded by a gang of vampires, led by Lestat, who was portrayed by Arsenio Hall. They made their mark by digging little holes in the ground in the borders of the neighborhood. It was so serious that I insisted that nobody leave the house anytime when it was remotely dark outside. Now is probably a good time to mention that I was a vampire slayer in this dream.* Even though I wasn't Buffy, I was acquainted with the Scooby Gang, and I decided that I needed Spike as backup.** So from the couch in my family room, Mrs. Weston (née Poor Miss Taylor) sent Spike a lengthy text message asking him to come and help, and also possibly to marry me--I didn't read the message that thoroughly, but you know how Mrs. Weston can be.
The next part was pretty cool. I was in this school or possibly abandoned shopping center building fighting the gang of vampires, who were dressed in some very crude armor. I made my way through by sliding on the floors for great distances, presumably as a result of my own innate slayer strength. I found Lestat's "right hand man" vampire and was trying to beat some information out of him to no avail. I was nearly about to chop his head off when he pleaded "you can't kill me--I'm the Elders Quorum President!" Apparently the reason nobody was killing the vampires (the male ones, at least) was because they were attending the local singles' ward and really bumping up the male population.
We all made our way into a grocery store after that, and one other male vampire was mulling over the pre-decorated cakes. His dilemma was that he had forgotten to get a cake for Elders Quorum, but it was Sunday and he wasn't sure if he should break the Sabbath to buy a cake. I was like, "you drink the blood of the innocent...I'm pretty sure buying a cake on Sunday isn't going to tip any scales." Over in fresh produce, Spike and Lestat (aka Arsenio Hall) were getting into it because Spike thought he told Lestat never to show his face in these parts again and also how can you tell whether a mango is ripe?
That dream left me with so many unanswered questions, but unfortunately, my kidneys hadn't left me with any more unfiltered blood, so I had to wake up.
*I have a complex, probably.
**This part was probably prompted by the fact that I'm thinking about going to Comic Con this year and James Marsters will be there.
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